Few of my kind are bad … I agree!

This world is a place where we learn a lot, just by observing people and it will never ever disappoint us.  We get to see quite a lot of things happening and every story, believe me – has got its two cents worth. This is a universal truth I guess.

Its a tragedy, in most cases, we tend to forget what we see and learn from life.  Put simply, we forget to apply the philosophy or wisdom we acquire in the situation when it is most required. This hence, is an exercise to not forgot what I have seen. So, if you see me in a situation earlier, save me the grace of being called a ‘hypocrite’.  Of all people in this world, I hate these criteria of junta.

Perhaps, this could be my first mature topic on this blog.  It is about Women and Marriage(it is heavily influenced by my views on seeing the typical Indian woman of my times).  I definitely agree to the fact, that ‘I’ am in no means a person to voice out my views and make you listen to it.

DISCLAIMER: Male world, please don’t think I am a fool or a Feminist.  And Female world, you don’t need me to talk for you. You are good enough!

So, let me begin and preach whatever I have acquired over the years.

Marriage perhaps is the most important phase in each individual’s life.  It actually is significant for two things, the life there after in the marriage, and the offsprings that are the by-products of every happy marriage. As I see it, in ideal cases, it is a union of two disjoint sets of qualities and habits.  The more contrast, the jig-saw puzzle will be that interesting.  The corollary, is also true.  However, it hasn’t made an interesting case. Reason, is quite simple – lot of similarities – the relation suffers with an i-know-everything-about-you disease.  Well, there would be exceptions – who generally make everything interesting with their behavior and personality. This is my ‘hypothesis’.  So, if you have your own, or wish to borrow mine – you are welcome.

Perhaps, if it is a case of disjoint forever, it stops moving ahead and it welcomes it’s not-so-distant cousins of misery and trouble. Whining is the initial syndrome, that needs to be dealt tenderly for best results, lest it may lead to caustic damage to the peace of mind and leaves the two souls with a life, devoid of life thereafter.  Maybe, I am too pessimistic to forget that it is nice to know each another, or maybe the happy things that get associated with that. Its not tough to realize the efforts that go behind in knowing one another, before you actually see that two individuals are alike.  My point here, is things become interesting if you are constantly re-evolving your relationship, so that you never lose interest. The quickly people realize it, the happy they are and they were too. I have seen to believe it

Now, the message from here on is intended for my gender audiences – the MALES.

These days, its not tough to accept the happening term of the so called ‘independant woman’. Its cliched for many reasons and often the butt of many jokes. Neither me nor many of my counterparts cannot help but laugh along because, the very aspect of independance is probably not understood properly. Maybe, its confused with Interdependance which again is not the parasitic dependance, where you only have a consistent flow from higher potential to lower potential(Readers, may forgive my Electrical Engg. skills)

Let’s go back now to the ‘Independant woman’.  Very few of them, actually fill that phrase perfectly, the rest enjoy the space constructed with lots of efforts by their true owners.  These dependant-for-identity class of women are hence, just the tenants of that space crafted carefully by the real independant ones. I can’t help but laught at them.

Now, ideally you would like to have this kind of woman to be with you, there is nothing wrong in that. If you don’t want such kind of woman with you, that is definitely wrong either.  Perhaps, the biggest mistake people make in picking up their spouse is to get into the mode and believing that – everything is ideal and so damn perfect!.  Please don’t limit yourself to the visible spectra of your life.  Think beyond.  Atleast 10-15 years ahead. Reason being, its the case of perfectly incoherent wave emitters can be tuned and put to resonance at one frequency of mutual consent.  Its the fundamental of life.  Again the disjoint set theory works here perfectly!

Now, let me pose a simple question – If you are planning to get a working woman into your life, you may want to answer this checklist for sure.  If you fail to abide by this, my advise is to please don’t screw up your life and her life – in one shot. Its like killing two birds with one stone – a wrong knot can actually do that!

First problem comes when the education levels match, if you cannot handle the other significant person’s intellectual abilities and wisdom, you are not fit for a relationship.  Also, this is very generic – it applies to the female world as well.

Secondly, its not a case of the association law for the word ‘Males’ and the words like ‘Dreams’, ‘Ambitions’, ‘Career’. Today, you are living and co-existing in all sectors and paths of life.  Give them some space, it doesn’t harm you. Just grow up a little bit and see beyond your boundaries. Realistically speaking, you are not losing on anything actually – infact you will be more happy to share your happiness with an equally intellectual spouse – who is as charming as you are.

Thirdly, you won’t come with a price tag. Its a false notion that money can make many things.  There are few things a Mastercard should not be used and it is better like that.  I need not be explicit I guess.

Don’t think that you are the only human who did a wonderful job, by welcoming a woman in your life.  Its a stupid assumption you make, that you are the only world in her life.  Agree, that you are part and maybe the majority of the world of her.  Please do understand that she has a space and her own world – encourage that, before she makes your life miserable

Polymorphism (not the OOPs one!) is perhaps best exhibited by woman.  Appreciate her in each of her role, to whomsoever it is.  We owe a lot of our happiness and peace of mind to them.  If you ignore this fact, you will live in pieces of mind.

Leave your insecurities and inferiority complexes and be a friend.  A friend for life.  There are innumerable successful relationships, that I have read and seen based on this simple fundamental of life. ‘Compete’ is a better word to ‘Fight’ at any situation.

Remember that, two hands make a clap and one hand always is used to slap.  That leaves us in bad taste isn’t it?

Probably, there is a small word, a four lettered one.  To cover for all the emotions of a human being like, understanding, support, care, sensitivity, kinship and et al.  I leave that to your intelligence, and literacy.  Because, if I tell that, the cause is lost.  As you didn’t realize it yourself.

Appreciable thing from this whole ordeal is to actually pick out the things that matter the most.  If you are cynical I appreciate if you can take some time and gather your own wisdom at your own pace.

Its a pity to see many of us indulging into situations that can be better avoided.  Worst part of the whole thing is, like getting a comb as a gift for growing bald.  You can never apply what you learnt or gathered where you ideally want to. Harsh Reality!!

Well, what the post – I never believed that I would be writing such stuff.

Perhaps, its an urge after seeing so many things around me, that has prompted me to take up this decision.

Let me know where I should be corrected, as I want to keep this as a benchmark – whether I bother to adopt or ignore.  Time will decide.

Heavy inspirations …..often end up with heavier perspirations in writing and thinking equally well.  It’s a pain seroiusly.

I vow not to go to these kinda blogs atleast till Spring of next year.

Until then….lets wait!

Dovidenia!